Loneliness
I was surprised to recently learn that loneliness is a massive thing for a large proportion of modern men.
Pressure to perform professionally - longer days, greater professional commitments, making and being ‘impactful’ and ‘the differentiator’ at work.
At home- being a brilliant husband/partner as well as a “bread winner”, promoting genuine equity with childcare and domestic duties.
Loneliness is not just a feeling of being alone; it is a state of mind that can make us feel empty, unwanted, and disconnected from others. Loneliness can have negative effects on our mental and physical health, such as increasing the risk of depression, anxiety, heart disease, and dementia. Many men experience loneliness, but they may not know how to cope with it or express it to others. Some of the reasons why modern men might feel lonely are:
Social isolation due to the COVID-19 pandemic, which has reduced the opportunities for face-to-face interactions and social activities.
Lack of emotional intimacy or support from their partner, friends, or family.
Pressure to conform to traditional masculine norms, such as being strong, independent, and stoic, which can prevent them from seeking help or showing vulnerability.
Changes in life circumstances, such as moving to a new place, losing a job, retiring, or becoming a father.
The good news is that loneliness can be overcome by developing a capability to share when we are feeling lonely. Sharing our feelings of loneliness can help us feel understood, accepted, and connected to others. It can also encourage others to talk about their own experiences of loneliness and create a sense of community.
We can share our feelings of loneliness by:
Reaching out to someone we trust, such as a friend, family member, colleague, or therapist.
Joining a support group or online community where we can meet people who have similar interests or challenges.
Volunteering for a cause we care about or helping someone in need.
Engaging in hobbies or activities that bring us joy and fulfilment.
Loneliness is not a sign of weakness or failure; it is a common and normal human experience that can be overcome.
By sharing our feelings of loneliness, we can improve our mental and physical health, strengthen our relationships, and make a positive difference in the world. On International Men’s Day let’s start a conversation and break the silence on loneliness.
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